:: m e l i s s a’s insane ramblings ::

Mood:
quizzical
Topic: Violent Society

Why is our society so violent?

There is one thing that makes people feel enough rage to commit
violence, and that is a feeling of powerlessness. If people feel that
they have no control over their destiny and environment, if they feel
that they cannot act effectively, then they can reach a point where
they believe that nothing short of violence can change their situation.
Acting effectively requires you to influence other people and to
control your environment. To influence other people, they must respect
you and be willing to listen to what you have to say. To control your
environment, you must understand it, have the skills to affect it, and
be permitted to act on it.
It should be clear that these conditions are not met very often in
our society. Many people in our society are alienated from one another
and have few opportunities to exert any real influence on one another.
Many poor and uneducated people do not have any control over their
environment whatsoever.

However, powerlessness is not the only ingredient in violence. The
real question is not why people are violent, but why so many men are
violent. Although women are just as capable of violence as men, crime
statistics show that it is not women who are turning our urban
environments into war zones.
Both men and women must abide by certain expectations. Even though
people have few instincts and all of our adult behavior is learned, we
labor under the misconception that men and women are biologically
destined to behave completely differently. Women are supposed to be
yielding, they are not expected to forcefully express their own wants
and needs. Men are supposed to be dominant and commanding, and are
regarded as weak if they express any tendencies to yield or to behave
in a "feminine" way.

As psychologists have discovered, however, the most mentally
healthy people express emotional and behavioral characteristics
traditionally assigned to both sexes. The fully functioning human can
be either forceful or gentle, commanding or submissive, strong or
yielding, as the situation requires. Unfortunately, the acceptable
range of emotions for men is rather narrow, and what happens is that
men must express all of their emotional energy through the few emotions
available to them. This leads to rather exaggerated expressions of
strength and virility.
Now, couple this self-image men have of strength and domination
with the feelings of powerlessness rife in our society, and you have a
recipe for disaster. Men must express their exaggerated sense of
dominance, but they are rendered impotent by their inability to act
with any effectiveness. To these men, violence seems to be the only way
to affect their environment.

This will continue to be a problem until men are raised differently.

M e L | s S a

Mood:
lyrical
Now Playing: Hoobastank - The Reason 

A song that brings a lot to mind..
To those who know what I’m saying.. CHEERS!

Hoobastank - The Reason



I’m not a perfect person

There’s many things I wish I didn’t do

But I continue learning

I never meant to do those things to you

And so I have to say before I go

That I just want you to know

I’ve found out a reason for me

To change who I used to be

A reason to start over new

And the reason is you

I’m sorry that I hurt you

It’s something I must live with everyday

And all the pain I put you through

I wish that I could take it all away

And be the one who catches all your tears

That’s why I need you to hear

I’ve found out a reason for me

To change who I used to be

A reason to start over new

And the reason is You [x4]

I’m not a perfect person

I never meant to do those things to you

And so I have to say before I go

That I just want you to know

I’ve found out a reason for me

To change who I used to be

A reason to start over new

And the reason is you

I’ve found out a reason to show

A side of me you didn’t know

A reason for all that I do

And the reason is you

M e L | s S a

Mood:
crushed out
Now Playing: Chingy - One Call Away
Topic: Ultimate Depression

I
wonder how is it possible for an individual to study s0o0oo0 hard yet
find it so hard to perform at an exam. I was studying the pass few days
for this exam (Internetworking) and especially yesterday until 4am. I
slept for only a few hours and got up again in the morning to continue
this never ending torture of mine and then when I sat for the paper, it
was so bleedy tough. Well not the entire paper, but half OF IT! So I’ve
been wondering, why do we keep push our self so much but to see our
self in despair at the end. In this case, I’ve invested time, energy,
and above all effort but where did it get me? Half way there isn’t what
I need, it isn’t good enough, I need to make it all the way there.
Sigh. I really feel bad because I feel that I’m wasting my dad’s $$$
and above all I feel like a failure. As much as you know me for being
an optimist, in times like this all I can see is darkness. I really
want to write more but I’m just to depress indeed I am.

In Life, why do we constantly keep investing? When we are constantly afraid of the risk… 

M e L | s S a

Mood:
cool
Now Playing: Michael Buble - Home

I have never really experienced 4 seasons but there’s a
first time for everything isnt it? I have bought several nice,thick and
warm clothes for winter but there’s still alot more shopping that I
could do which I’m putting on hold for now until more $$$ comes in. I
just went shopping with Pei Ni at Valley Girl..yeah, my favourite store
in the city and spent about $52.00 but it’s still a good bargain I tell
you, truly I’m beginning to think that I’m becoming a shopaholic
since I came to australia,really..I somehow love shopping and I do it
alomost every 2 weeks

It’s getting cold lately that I can no longer wear shorts and walk
around at home. Seriously, I took a walk home from Uni today after my
Internetworking class and it was so0o0o brrr… cold! to add to it, it
was at night..so the brezze was just being a biatch! I wished I had a
jacket just then. But somehow I love cold weather, so let’s see how
much I can take this winter.

I really want to write more but I’m so tired and SLEEPY above all.
Also I’m working tomorrow, so it means I got to wake up early.

Keep the peace.

M e L | s S a