Millions
have used this timeless phrase yet the meaning never fades. It has
endured through time. Nevertheless, many people especially teenagers
seem to be using the expression to freely associate it with the
attraction between one another.
These three words, "falling in love" come out of our mouths. However,
what is the impact of falling in love? Why it is everyone in the world
appears to want to experience it? Here is my humble opinion.
Falling in love is when you begin to feel the sparks fly, bells ring
and feel the chemistry as the person enters the room. It might be the
boy next door, girl next to you in Science class, your brother’s friend
or even your own best friend. You can never control the feeling that
envelopes your heart and clouds your mind. It conquers you. It shows in
the way your eyes sparkle when you talk about that person and how your
heart flutters when his or her name is mentioned.
Falling in love is when you realize you know and learn to care for
another human being as much or more than yourself. When you start to
willingly share part of your life and secrets and dreams with someone
other than your diary. It’s when you trust your heart for someone else
to nurture it or to scar it. It is when you are ready to get to know
someone inside out and let someone do the same. It is even nicer when
the person you fall in love with treats you the same.
Everything has its good and bad sides. Sooner or later, the long phone
chats, the customary hugs and kisses, the constant dates and too much
spending time together will be boring and routine. No matter how hot
and passionate the feeling of "falling in love" was, it may soon fade
and die. Then comes the heartbreak and distress. Realization sets in.
You may be spending too much time with that special someone that you
might neglect your friends, studies and God.
Your world, which was revolving around him, crashes down, pinning and
squashing your heart. It certainly brings a lot of happiness while it
lasts, but behold as things turn ugly and the tables turn. I feel that
falling in love, whether or not you see it coming, will surely change
the way things are. It is another level of relationships. If you cross
the boundaries of friendship, chances are you can either go further or
just end up being nothing.
Lovers
who were friends at first are often left with bitterness. Once you
learn the consequences, the hardest part is to face the risks. If you
feel you are in love, do you express your feelings or push them aside?
What if the person you feel truly attached to and love actually feels
nothing for you? Or if the One turns out to be the complete opposite of
what you thought?
I believe that being in love and being in a relationship is a learning
experience. And we must understand that well before having a
relationship. Whether you are in a relationship now, or in the process
of "conversion," or still single, or you have just lost someone, you
must learn. And learning means it is okay to enjoy the friendship, to
enjoy each other’s companionship, to enjoy every moment of it. But it
is also learning to let go when you have to. To learn to respect your
partner’s feelings, thoughts and body.
It means you realize the responsibilities as sons and daughters of your
parents, and not to violate trust and love by getting involved in
actions you are bound to regret. It is learning to reject one softly
when you know you cannot return the love. It is to learn to accept
another human but be able to stand in the way should the person decide
to walk down the wrong and destructive path.
Falling in love does have its figurative meaning if you dwell long
enough on its literal meaning. Love is an emotion that can drive you
crazy one day and leave you down in the dumps the next. Falling in love
simply means that you have no control, no idea of what love holds for
you. You cannot stop yourself from falling once you begin to stumble.
It is basically being naturally out of control despite how level-headed
you are or how cold your heart might be. There is no right or wrong in
falling in love. There’s always a reason for everything. Falling in
love was, is and always will be a mystery that cannot be solved.
May you feel the endless and abundance of love everywhere. Have faith
that you will find true love when the time comes. And that is the end
of my psychoanalysis of falling in love.
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